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They say that spring has arrived

By Sonia Nevis

They say that Spring has arrived.

We have had an odd winter – really no winter at all, only a string of spring days.

I was delighted to have such pleasant weather until I began to wonder whether it was at the cost of tornadoes, floods and other unusual weather upheavals around the world.

All these years I have taken for granted that the seasons would follow each other, that the sun and the moon would rise as they “always” do, that I would always know when to buy sandals since summer was coming, and when I need to check my snow boots since I would need them soon.

Suddenly I am faced again with the reality of not knowing what tomorrow will be.

Many years ago, I read an article that said that old age started at age 85. I felt so much freedom since my mother, my grandmother, and my great grandmother all died in their 20s.

What did I have to worry about, since I read the article in my 30s and my reaching 85 seemed impossible?

A recent study showed that “it’s no surprise that the older people get, the longer they think it takes for a person to reach old age”:

• On average, adults between the ages of 30 and 49 think old age begins at 69.

• People who are currently 50-64 believe old age starts at 72.

• Responders who are 65 and older say old age begins at 74.

A Pew study said that women considered old age to be when they were 70 and men considered old age to be 66.

For me, old age is still being 85.

I counted and found that I have 89 days before I get there.

When I was in my 50s, I vowed that when I was old I would always wear sneakers and eat as much chocolate as I wanted to. I’ve been true to both of these vows.

Now I will wait until I have lived my 89 days before I make new vows.

I’ll wait to think about it until the 90th day comes, although I already have a few thoughts.

I look forward to the future.

Warmly, Sonia

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One Response to “They say that spring has arrived”

  1. Gary Gray says:

    Thank you Sonia,
    Lately, I have been thinking a lot about old age. I just returned from my Aunt Louise’s memorial service. She was 101 in February. She lived alone in rural Colorado. On a Friday she got sick and went to the hospital where she died the next day. When she was 97 she decided to write her memoir. She got the job done with plenty of time to spare.
    I am 66 and in my third year as a Gestalt therapist. I guess I have not entered old age yet because I am always surprised to discover I am the oldest person in the room. I look forward to new learning, new relationships with clients, new self-confidence and the always new experience of creativity. I am grateful for so much to look forward to.
    My best to all of you

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